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Bushido: The Way of Honor

Modern BushidoBushido is the way of the warrior. A friend of mine, now lost, taught me a little about this, which is essentially the essence of the chivalric knight. I find myself in this place a lot. I act with honor, and as a warrior both. These are not mutually exclusive.

Being kind isn’t about propping someone up artificially so they’re living in a lie. Sometimes the greatest kindness is to tell them the truth, no matter how much they don’t want to hear it, and even if it causes them pain. Sometimes the best course is to re-break a bone so that it sets correctly.

It takes strength to be the one to re-break someone’s bone and cause them pain. I never want to cause pain, it goes against my nature, but sometimes it’s required. You can’t make an omelet without breaking some eggs. The seed can’t sprout unless it cracks open.

I’ve been watching what Sanders here has to say for some time, and we’re going to get his book. Part of the reason this one in particular resonates is that several months ago I saw something very close to this golden yin/yang in a vision. I was surprised to see it here on this book cover, and I like what it promises to teach. From the Amazon description:

In Modern Bushido, you will learn:
* How to live a life of character
* How your thoughts affect your life
* What it means to be a true friend
* The true meaning of honor
* The benefits of meditation
* What true respect means
* Your ultimate responsibility in life
* How to balance your life
* How to be at peace the death
* What true courage is

Bushido is the warrior’s code of honor, but even if you are not a martial artist, even if you’re unable to walk, these principles are things everyone should live by. Truth, honor, strength. These include being truthful, honorable, and strong with yourself because everything else comes from this.

Warriors come in all shapes and sizes and types. Some are peaceful warriors, like Gandhi or Mother Teresa. Some are physical warriors like police, soldiers, bodyguards or the martial artist. Some are spirit warriors, like lightworkers and shamans. What kind of warrior are you? Do you live with honor and truth?


It Gets Better.


leadershipI never meant to be a leader. But, somehow, it happened. I like to think that it got pushed onto me because of who and what I am, but I think that was always part of the plan. Not my plan, the Big Plan. You know the one I mean.

Some say that there are personality types, like archetypes, and that the leader is one of them. In this current incarnation I sure didn’t start out as one, but if I think back as far as I can remember, I was very much part of the front lines. People looked to me for guidance and to lead the charge.

So, this time around, I had to be put in that position, because I wasn’t about to stand up and proclaim myself a leader. Things were different, very different, and I was coming from a completely different place. A whole other set of circumstances that shaped me into someone new. Or so I thought. Not completely new, it turns out.

A leader is one who can inspire, keep people safe, organize assets, and keep things moving forward. A leader is self-sacrificing in order to achieve the end goal. A leader leads by example, by strength and heart. A leader can be a safe haven, a confidant, or the person who kicks you in the ass right when you need that most in order to grow. A leader stands on the front lines and takes the shots and does things he doesn’t want to, but knows he has to, for the greater good.

It’s one of the most difficult things a person can be. It can be a little scary when you realize that someone, or a bunch of someones, are all looking up to you for help. You can’t buckle when that realization hits. You have to find that zen place and that inner strength and keep going as you have been.

Everybody thinks it’s all glory and roses, but it’s mostly thankless work and heartache. It’s the moments when you realize you’ve inspired somebody to change for the better, or helped someone through something difficult, that you know it’s all worth it.

Someone is a leader because it’s the right thing to do, and they have the strength and ability to help others. It’s a calling. It’s not for everyone. It’s one of the most selfless things a person can do and be.


superman symbolPeople often confuse strength with power. I’ve covered what strength means in a separate post. Yes, they are similar, and usually work together, but they are not the same.

Strength is usually a mental trait, or, in the case of physical strength, it involves how your body operates. Either way, strength is a very personal, inward-looking thing. Power, on the other hand, usually affects the world around you. How you wield that power can be incredibly helpful, or incredibly destructive. Choose each action carefully.

Power could be the raw force of moving mountains. It can be the power held over others, or the power used to help others. The power of a politician, a warrior, a priest, or a parent. Or the power of love. Some would say this is the most powerful force in the universe. Some people will do literally anything for love, including sacrifice their own lives. Love has started and stopped wars, and changed the face of the earth. Sometimes this happens one person at a time. A beautiful virus.

sacred heartThe heart is the door of love and of power both. The Sacred Heart, which I’ve posted on before, is about both of these things. That golden Light shining through that heart-shaped door is the Love of the Source, and holds incredible, immense power. The only limit to this power is that of the vessel. When a being lets this raw power flow through them as a pure conduit, without any limitations, they can literally change the world around them. As that pure conduit, you can direct the Light toward what you want to change and manifest. When you restrict it, out of fear or malice or lack of trust in yourself, you restrict that power’s ability to affect the world.

Sometimes you can even hurt yourself if you open up too wide, too fast, and then panic and try to clamp back down on it. It’s a lot like water, in that you need to let it do what it’s going to do and not try to stop the flow of a fire hose by sticking your face in front of it. Don’t try to contain it inside yourself, you’re only the hollow conduit. You can guide it, but otherwise let it flow freely. Trust yourself and the Source, be gently careful with it, and you’ll be fine.

Put your heart in the right place, literally, and let the power flow.


yoga guyI’ve been playing down, denying and hiding some things. There are certain truths, however, that I need to come to terms with, and that others need to deal with. If you’re going to call me arrogant because of these things, kindly fuck off, I’m busy being a badass over here so I can help the world be a better place.

I’m going to post about these one at a time, starting with strength.

Strength is not about dominating others with power. The most important kind of strength is inner strength. The ability to keep going when the darkness takes you and it seems there’s no way out. The ability to look into yourself and your actions with absolute truth, unflinching, and recognize places that still need improvement.

Strength is also about taking action to follow through on those improvements in yourself and keep your word to yourself and to others. This requires more willpower than people realize. It’s so easy to let things slide, because they’re too difficult, or hurt too much to change, or seem like they require effort. It’s actually more effort, in the long run, to continue giving in to temptations, then feeling badly about yourself later, or to break a promise and then have to fix the disappointment you caused.

Non-physical strength can also be called willpower. It’s critically important to have a solid grasp on this, especially if you’re going to help others. Physical strength is also important. They feed each other. Physical strength, in the form of lean muscle mass, keeps the entire body more fit and running more smoothly, as well as boosting the metabolism so that it’s easier to stay fit.. No, you don’t have to be a body-builder, and I realize some people have mobility issues, but everyone, including Stephen Hawking, has physical and mental strength that keeps them going. Mental strength, or willpower, is even more important than physical strength, since this is where the self-discipline to get out and exercise and to stop eating cookies comes from.

How does this relate to me? I have a steel will. I examine myself honestly, and if I find a flaw, I work to improve it. When I have a task or a goal in front of me, I set a laser focus on it and work until it’s accomplished. I will find a way, or make one. I’m a survivor. A warrior. Unbreakable. Truthful. I keep my word to people. It is extremely rare for me to break a promise, and even then, it’s only as a very last resort. I’ve been torn down more times than I can count, only to get through it and come out the other side even stronger.


The Better Man Project ™


If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:.
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build’em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of…

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Day (417) – The Stones

The Better Man Project ™


Do you have the stones for it? The stones for what? For it.

Sitting in the car with my dad the other day, I asked him about the speeches he has given throughout the years and which one was his favorite. “I think the risk speech I gave was my favorite,” he said. “What was that about?” He then dropped on me an equation I will never forget.

Your commitment and excitement of it succeeding has to be > your fear of it failing.

This is a sliding scale too. Often of times there are moments where the failures stack up, and you question the other side. But the scale must never live in the favor of the side of failure. It must be tipped towards belief. Because there are so many reasons that it wont work…I promise you. The past…a huge one. In fact, most venture capital firms…

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he who conquers himself is mighty

Sigils, Symbols, Veves

vodou vevesWhen you see a cross, you probably think of Christianity, or more specifically, Jesus Christ. Judaism uses the Star of David, primarily. The crescent and star is associated with Islam, and so on.

These symbols are very ancient, very powerful, and very much associated with particular things. Just like modern logos. When you see the Nike swash, you know it’s Nike, right? Same thing, but the symbols I’m talking about aren’t just logos. I’m talking in particular about symbols of power that, when used in a particular way, activate energy and cause things to happen.

Some definitions:

Sigil: A sign or image supposedly having magical power.

Symbol: A letter, figure, or other character or mark or a combination of letters or the like used to designate something.

Veve: A religious symbol for a vodou loa/lwa and serves as their representation during rituals.

You can also say glyph, pictogram, seal, mark, or whatever term works for you. You get the idea.

Some symbols can have multiple uses, such as a cross, while others are very specific sigils used in a particular way, as in Reiki. I’m going to assume that you have a symbol that’s meaningful and specific to you or your guardian spirit(s). It may even be something that doesn’t even exist yet, that you create together. It doesn’t have to be fancy, but it should be easy enough for you to draw that you can use it at need and it won’t take you ten minutes. If you want to do a fancier version for art projects or elaborate rituals, that’s cool, but make sure you have a simple version literally at your fingertips.

Let’s use something simple for an example, such as a six-leaf clover. Pretty unique, nobody else uses it for anything probably, and maybe your spirit guide is Irish. Whatever the reason, that symbol clicks with you guys. Great. But how to use it?

Defense: Draw it in your home, car, office, wherever as a way to link your guardian to that spot. He, she or it will be able to put up a more powerful defense to whatever might come at you. If you don’t feel safe where you are, draw it in the air and say your guardian’s name. Paint it on a novena candle, the type in the glass chimney, and burn the novena when you feel you need protection or even just a little extra focus from your guardian.

Offense: This is where intent is even more important. Draw the symbol in the air, then push it at your attacker. Draw it on the ground, using whatever’s handy (salt, dirt, sugar, chalk, etc.) as a trap to slow them down, to throw them off your trail, to make them trip and fall, whatever. Again, intent is important, make sure you put your intent into that symbol as you draw it. Use it to help your guardian do their job better and strengthen them.

symbolsAs a Key/Door: This is where it gets really interesting. You can create spirit portals between places, between people, and inside yourself. Draw the symbol over what needs to be opened, then picture your symbol turning into light. I usually use gold, but use whatever color resonates with you and your guide. From that initial keyhole, the sides pull away to reveal more and more light as the hole gets bigger and becomes an open door or window.

If you want to make a portal that can be closed up again and reused, simply place a temporary door over the open space. You’ll see light radiating a little around the sides, and that’s fine, because that makes it easy to find the door again later. Be sure to use your symbol on the door to lock it so no unwanted visitors enter through it.

You can use your symbol for pretty much anything that you want to put power into and link your guardian with, such as long-distance healing and protection of someone. Wear it as a piece of jewelry. Get it done as a tattoo. Experiment, and I’m sure you’ll come up with dozens of uses and ways of implementing your sigil.

The Strong and the Weak

Few things are more sad and frustrating than someone who spends all their time and energy trying to “win” at some argument they’re trying to bait you into. The only reason someone would do this is to try and seem important and feel superior. How selfish and small.

On the other side of the coin are the “strong people” she mentions. I think what she’s getting at is that they’re confident and healthy enough in themselves that they don’t need to tear down others. Sometimes the catchers aren’t strong, though. They need catching too, sometimes, especially if they’ve given away so much to other people that they have little left to keep from stumbling themselves.

No one should ever feel as though they have no one to go to in a time of need. If you truly feel this way, the time is right now to start building your support network of catchers, who will be your net the next time you miss a step on that tightrope.

If you see someone who’s falling, reach out and be part of their net. You may be their only lifeline at that moment.

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